Migrate, Hibernate, Tolerate
I will do almost anything to avoid an uncomfortable emotion or feeling. Eat, drink, sleep, read, talk to someone, watch TV. Pick a fight with my husband about something trivial. Dive into an easy and not necessary project. Here’s how not being able to tolerate discomfort hurts us:
You’re ignoring your body’s signs that something is wrong, or at the very least needs attention.
You’re much more likely to fall prey to numbing activities that aren’t great for you (excessive eating, drinking, etc.) and definitely don’t help you process feelings.
Avoiding discomfort only leads to a greater degree of discomfort once you’re finally forced to face it. Which you will.
Take Time to Process Big Changes
As the New Year begins and you’ve taken some time to reflect on the past year, ask yourself how you’re honoring and processing any changes that did take place.
I’ve found that if I don’t stop and process change, the emotions that come with that change blindside me when I least expect it. Even if it’s a good change, it’s still important to recognize and accept what that means, and there are scary or bad feelings that can come from good change – change, after all, is generally a bit uncomfortable.
Reflection Perfection
The beginning of a year can be a natural time to reflect on how the last year has gone for you. I am personally learning to be better about reflecting; it doesn’t come naturally to me. I like to keep powering forward without processing what’s happened. But I’ve learned in recent years that reflecting can truly help you to gain insight, slow down, and make positive changes.
Set Yourself Up For Success in the New Year
Set Yourself Up for Success in 2025
As established, I’m a sucker for a January reset. I suspect that most coaches feel the same way – it’s like OUR holiday. I like marking transitions with something that feels tangible (fireworks are great for this). It helps me stop and take in the change, something I’m not great at without a little help (fireworks preferred).
Let’s ease in with a temperature check. Sit with yourself and ask: “how am I entering this year?” Are you rested and full of energy? Excited about what’s to come? Or exhausted, burned out, and crabby? Picture the smiley/frowny face pain scale they show you when you’re at the doctor’s office and truly check in with yourself. Where are you on the scale?
What are you leaving behind in 2024?
What are you leaving behind in 2024? Take five minutes to think about something you don’t want to bring with you into the new year, then build a strategy for how to leave it behind. Fuel your professional growth as a leader by not dwelling on the past and focusing on the future.
This ONE thing will help you get more done at work
Are you feeling overwhelmed and burnt out because your days are a sea of meetings? Try this one tactic to give yourself time to actually get work done every week.
Here we go…
Today I announced on LinkedIn that I am officially leaving my full time job and going into this coaching and consulting business full time. If it’s on LinkedIn, it’s real, right?
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